February 1, 2012

"it has become something of a cliche to observe that if we do not love ourselves, we cannot love anyone else. this is true enough, but it is only part of the picture. if we do not love ourselves, it is almost impossible to believe fully that we are loved by someone else. it is almost impossible to accept love. it is almost impossible to receive love. no matter what our partner does to show that he or she cares, we do not experience the devotion as convincing because we do not feel lovable to ourselves."
-Nathaniel Branden, The Psychology of Romantic Love

1 comment:

Cameron said...

the distinction though is between love and loveable, i can hate myself and still at the same time find it conceivable that someone will love me, like saying i hate raman (what i am eating now), versus i hate raman but somebody could like it.