March 19, 2012

i hate situations like these. when you have to debate between telling that person how you feel or just let it go and try to ignore it for the sake of keeping things happy between you two. i tried for a short while, not to open my big mouth every time i felt a certain way. i would let it soak in and usually just go away somewhere down the road. but, by keeping it to myself i am not being honest. and real relationships between friends are built on honesty and open communication. right? well, yess and no. i agree that two people who are close enough should always share how they feel. especially if they are angry, upset, or hurt about something the other person did. that way, the problem can be solved and the friends can resume into their happy, healthy, trusting relationship. so, i told. again. i opened my big, fat mouth and expressed myself too openly, that it hurt the other party. they are upset and feel like they are constantly getting criticized. i don't want to be that way. i don't want to hurt my friends. i want to love them, and let know how loved they are in return. so what do i do then? keep it to myself or tell and risk their feelings getting hurt? well, at least to me, their feelings are worth alot more to me than my own emotions. which is why i don't like to tell. i like to just cope with it in a way that doesn't hurt them. but, then when they find out they are upset that i don't trust them enough to tell them. which is another way of hurting them. why can i not get this right? how do i tell someone what hurt me, without hurting them back in return? two hurts won't bring on a heal. two hurts just create painful open wounds. (sigh) 


-shine on,
glitter girl.

6 comments:

truebluedude said...

Honestly, some wounds have to be opened up, or re-opened in or order to heal effectively. To put your dilemma into perspective.. If they are going to get mad at you for what you say, would they be worth it to talk to in the first place?

P.S. Should you really be friends with someone who judges you by words rather than actions?

glitter girl. said...

hey chris,

thanks(: i am glad to see someone still reads this thing. haha

Cameron said...

people dont read this, that hurts Caitlin,
the problem is that individuals who when you are honest and open are offended are not the people that you should concern yourself with their emotions, not to say your interactions with them are bad

truebluedude said...

always, and forever. I look forward to reading your blog every day. believe it or not, your words mean something to me :)

glitter girl. said...

cameron and chris; i love you both.
what great words of wisdom you have to offer, (:

thanks guys!
you are right. i can see that.

Cameron said...

"always and forever" what on earth chris?
YES, somebody finally knows i am right,
i would ask for that in writing, but whenever we have a disagreement i can just print this out